How to Make the Holidays Special for Older Loved Ones

I know you’re getting ready for all the holiday fun, and I just wanted to share some tips about including our older loved ones in the celebrations. As an elder care nurse, I’ve seen how meaningful it is to ensure they feel engaged, included, and cherished—not just as guests but as active participants in the holiday magic.

Here’s the thing: holidays can be joyful and overwhelming, especially for our older family members. But with a bit of planning, we can create moments they’ll treasure without overloading them.

1.Bring Back the Classics

The holidays are full of nostalgia, so why not lean into that? Pull out an old photo album, ask Grandma about her favorite holiday traditions, or bake the cookie recipe Grandpa used to love. These little moments of connection can open the floodgates of happy memories—and spark some storytelling!

2. Get Them Involved (in Ways They’ll Love)

Even if they’re not as spry as they used to be, they can always contribute something. Maybe your mom loves helping set the fancy holiday table, or your dad enjoys teaching the grandkids how to make his famous cranberry sauce. Giving them a role helps them feel needed and valued, which is the best gift of all.

3. Create a Comfortable Space

Loud music, chaotic rooms, and never-ending conversations can be draining for older adults. Make sure there’s a quiet corner where they can recharge if things get too lively. Having their favorite chair nearby or a blanket they love can make all the difference.

4. Adapt the Fun

We all want our loved ones to join in on the activities, but some adjustments may be necessary. For instance, if charades feel too physical, try a trivia game based on their favorite movies or music. If they’re not up for a walk to see the holiday lights, bring them to the lights—maybe a drive through a lit-up neighborhood with some hot cocoa.  Get your copy of TalkElder's Holiday Game List for all ages.

5. Celebrate at Their Pace

Fatigue can set in quicker than you think. Keep an eye out for when they need a break or when it’s time to wind things down. That way, they’ll leave the event feeling happy and not overwhelmed.

6. Make Time for One-on-One Moments

In a room full of chatter, it’s easy for older family members to feel left out. Spend a little time just sitting with them. Ask them how they’re feeling, what they’ve been up to, or what they’re most excited about this season. Those quieter conversations are often the most special.

7. Watch for Subtle Signs

While the holidays are about joy, they’re also a chance to observe. Is Grandpa having trouble getting up from his chair? Does Aunt Susan seem confused about what day it is? These might be signs that they need extra help as we head into the new year. Read more about what to look for our blog, Recognizing a Crisis: When Visiting Mom over Thanksgiving Turns into a Call for Help. 

The holidays are all about connection and love, and helping our older loved ones feel that warmth makes the season truly special. It doesn’t take much—just a bit of thoughtfulness and plenty of heart.

P.S.  Nothing like games to bring laughter to a party. It also creates wonderful opportunities for everyone to connect, regardless of age or ability. And don’t forget—you can always modify games to make them simpler or more accessible. The goal is to have fun together, not perfection. 😊

We put together a list and links for games that would be perfect for your gathering and ours. SIGN UP HERE for the free game list and more TalkElder content over the holidays and New Year. 

Let me know if you try any of these out—I’d love to hear how it goes! 🎄✨

Happy holidays, my friend! Let me know how your celebrations go—I’d love to hear all about them.

Warm holiday hugs and Together,